I said, “Bad boy, you didn't ask permission!” He was stunned and responded, “What? Am I?”, and then shot an even bigger load. We were talking afterwards, and he swears he didn't know he was coming until I said something. However, the last time I pegged him with my vibrating dildo, I realized he was coming without permission.
One of our D/s rules is that he ALWAYS has to ask permission to come. I've pegged him several times, and he's told me he's slightly addicted to the incredible orgasm he receives when being pegged. During that time we discovered that he really loves pegging. We've had a wonderful time meeting about every two weeks to play and explore. I was impressed with his maturity and self-awareness. Last year a younger man found me on Fetlife. I've been in the D/s lifestyle for about 10 years. Ryan Marino on Twitter a 59-year-old, cis, het, kinky Dominant woman. So, when you’ve pulled the straps so tight your husband can barely move-during that last half hour-you should put the game pad down, SACKD, turn off the TV, and focus all your attention on your poor, miserable, suffering-just-the-way-he-likes-to-suffer bondage freak of a husband. “But it's doubtful that using straps instead of ropes would make a difference as far as clot/embolism risk, or that a short period of extra tightening-30 minutes-would be riskier for clots or an embolism or anything other than bruising or other soft tissue injury from direct pressure.” “There is going to be some level of risk with immobility and restraint with things like blood clots,” said the docs, and blood clots can cause an embolism, and embolisms can kill. As for your concerns about leather straps causing a potentially life-threatening pulmonary embolism… Safe and sane bondage tops know to keep a sturdy pair of safety scissors nearby for the same reasons. “If things go south, it’s easy for anyone to get flustered or start to panic, which does not make untying tight knots any easier,” added the docs. Marino urge rope bondage fans to use quick-release knots. It doesn’t sound like you’re doing rope bondage, SACKD, since sleepsacks and straitjackets designed for BDSM play are usually secured with leather straps, not ropes.
And physical restraint plus ‘chemical restraint,’ i.e., sedation or intoxication, is a much more dangerous combination, so it’s probably safer to avoid anything like alcohol. “Another potential risk from tight restraints would be muscle breakdown potentially causing kidney damage and electrolyte issues (‘rhabdomyolysis’),” said the docs, “so platitudes like ‘stay hydrated,’ i.e., drink plenty of water before and after, is reasonable advice.
So, don’t strap your husband face-down on your bondage board, don’t put anything around his neck or otherwise restrict his air intake, and if you haven’t already agreed on a safeword and/or safegrunt and/or safegesture, settle on one and/or all now. There’s also a known link between unexpected deaths and compromising the airway and breathing.” That doesn’t mean tying people up on their backs is always safe but tying someone down on their belly is worse. “We know this from both patient safety research and examples from law enforcement. “For a mix of reasons, restraining people prone-on their belly-can be particularly dangerous,” said the docs. Is there a chance I might? Can you ask a doc for me? We’ve been doing this for 10 years and I haven’t killed him yet. For the same reason, he doesn’t want to ask his doctor. He didn't want me to write, because he doesn’t want to find out it’s dangerous and have to stop. If it matters, he’s in his 40s, in great shape, normal blood pressure, etc. But for the last hour they’re fairly tight, and for the last 20 or 30 minutes they’re almost unbearably tight. Some go over him and around the board, pressing him down to the board, others go around his body and cinch in. I’m worried that he’s going to have an embolism or something because of the straps. (We also have a leather straitjacket, but we use it a lot less often.) If he doesn’t complain or ask to get out, he’s rewarded with a hand-job when I’m done. Toward the end of the night, the straps are so tight he can’t move or even take a deep breath. I play video games for a few hours with my feet up on him. Most often I put him in his sleepsack-picture a leather sleeping bag you can’t get out of-which is strapped to a bondage board on the floor by our couch. But I worry about accidentally killing him. We’ve been able to make it work because he’s into a kind of bondage he calls “storage.” On “storage nights,” I put him in bondage and play video games while he “suffers.” So far, so good. I’m a fairly vanilla guy, while my husband is into bondage. I’m nervous about sending this question and my husband is afraid you might answer it.